PARTIES HEARTS!

Our brain makes even want the thing we were forbidden Some scientific studies suggest that when something is taken away from us by force majeure (a law, the end of a relationship, a medical restriction etc.), our brain makes us believe that the new situation will be good. Other studies, however, found that people actually react negatively and start to want the forbidden thing more than ever. Which side is right?
In practice, we know that the two things can happen. But what will determine whether it is in one way or another? A study by the University of Waterloo (Canada) and Duke University (USA), published in the journal Psychological Science, suggests something interesting: we tend to rebel against a rule or situation when we think it is not definitive - and aaceitamos more easily when it appears to be for real.
This goes for any situation, including unrequited love or the end of a relationship. Which brings us to our main subject. Kristin Laurin, an author of the study, explained to Psychological Science: "If it is a restriction against which I can not really do anything, so would have no meaning banging my head against the wall trying to fight, to motivate us to fight for her. That's why sometimes persist in unrequited love and other times fast desencanamos.
For this study, volunteers read a text that said that the government had decided to reduce the speed limits in cities because that would increase the safety of the population. But one group was told that this law would come into force with certainty; others, that it would probably happen, but there was still a small chance of it being overturned.
The biggest supporters of the law were part of the group that he thought the speed limit would be reduced permanently. And the group believed that there was still a possibility that it will not was the least supported, with rates below the control group.
Unrequited Love
To Laurin, this confirms that if a restriction is final, people end up finding a way to live with it. And that would explain our reaction to unrequited love. If the person gives you a negative, but you notice signs that it may well change your mind, your brain does not understand this as a "no" absolute. Before, you will nurture the idea that can change her mind - and this will only strengthen your desire and feeling, making him believe you need to fight to achieve the goal. But feel that the "no" was short, your brain will end up becoming convinced that you do not like the person that much and will desencanar. The same applies to the end of a dating and can help us understand why some take a few months to forget the broken heart, whilst others take years. Of course there are other aspects involved, such as the time and the intensity of dating and many other coisas.Mas one thing is certain: If you think you have chances to return to the relationship, will take longer to overcome it. Definitive purposes may hurt, but your brain will give you a little help in this case.
Drajosiane Odila